Men Are Subject To Sexual Harassment At Work More Often Than We Think!!!

Google ‘Sexual Harassment in the Workplace’ and you will discover that 90 percent of the image results you see depicts a woman being harassed by a man.

Women are 9 times more vulnerable to sexual harassment at work than men. This may be true, but have you ever stopped to think how often men are subjected to such things?

Sexual harassment is an unwanted sexual advance or request for sexual favor usually done physically or verbally. It can be from boss to subordinate, supervisor to subordinate or even co-worker to co-worker. Sexual harassment is a silent epidemic that has eaten deep into the Nigerian workplace. Actually, it has become so common that people are beginning to see it as a norm. Statements like these have become the order of the day – “As long as there is a boss and a subordinate somewhere, irrespective of gender, there will always be sexual harassment”. “It is normal”. “Don’t make a big deal out of it”. To make it worse, the economic situation of the country makes many succumb to harassment, even when they find it disturbing. They refuse to speak up for fear of losing their jobs.

Undoubtedly, men are responsible for a good number of sexual harassment in the workplace. But men are also targets and victims of this same menace, and we often forget that. Maybe it seems like it doesn’t exist because most men actually deal with the harassment head on and then shrug it off. Let me give you a typical scenario.

Jane, a female staff of a small food processing company, harassed a new intern assigned to work with her department. She constantly made snide comments and asked him offensive questions like “How large is your pen***”.

At some point, she started taking it as far as groping him whenever they were alone in the office. This intern tried many times to tell her off nicely but she wouldn’t oblige. He dealt with it silently and never reported her to the authorities because he had seen her couple of times going in and out of the CEO’s office at odd times including after work hours. He thinks she is actually sleeping with the boss and if he reports this, he would be out the door before you say jack!

This is just one of many scenarios, cases like this go on in our workplaces on a daily basis. Harassment is the same, be it to a male or female and should be treated the same. The disturbing experience of harassment leaves the victim often frustrated, depressed and angry. As it is considered normal office culture, many people who go through this don’t feel confident that the problem is big enough for them to speak up.

What can we do to eradicate this bug eating itself through our workplaces?

Nigeria does not have very stringent rules with regards sexual harassment. Some people think reporting harassment cases is completely useless. Because even those you are reporting to are somewhat guilty of the same offence and you might end up with nothing or even lose the job.

So what can we do to stop this?

What do you suggest? Leave your comments below.

What Will You Do If You Find Out That Your Spouse Is Impotent/Barren?

1. For the ladies:

You are a Lady with wonderful prospects and great suitors. You accepted the proposal of a man that seems the best for you only to discover after your wedding that he is impotent.

2. For the guys:

You worked hard all your life to get to where you are today. You could've decided to remain single for a while and catch some fun but for the love of family decided to marry. You got married to a lady of your choice who made you believe is the most decent to start a family with. Several months afterwards it was discovered she was barren resulting from multiple abortions due to a promiscuous life she lived before you met.

What will you do given either of these situations?.

“I Am So Good In Bed He Keeps On Leaving His Wife At Home To Crawl In My Bed” – 22year Old Lady Brags

A Zimbabwean woman has become a controversial figure in Zimbabwe following her recent claim that she is very good in bed.

Talent Taderera, 22, said she is very good in bed that is why the boyfriend cannot get enough of her and keeps cheating on the wife. This came to light after Talent accused the boyfriend of leaking her n*de photos.

She said because she is a master in sex, her on-off boyfriend Anesu Gondo, 26, can not let her go. Gondo is a former Dynamos striker now plying his trade in South Africa. She also claimed the footie ace suspected her of using love potions to drive him crazy, H-metro reports.

“He has been telling people in my neighbourhood as well as my relatives that I use love potions on him but that is not true. There is nothing mysterious about how he feels. The only reason I am sure he cannot take me out of his life is because our s*x life was great.

I am good in bed and he cannot have enough of me which could be the reason why he is so confused the way he is,” said Talent.

As a result of her sexual abilities, Talent revealed that Anesu would always demand n*de pictures from her as he wanted to see her in her birthday suit frequently.

“The juju claims he is making are not true at all because the truth of the matter is he still finds me so attractive. Many times he has asked me if I could send him n*de pictures and I have been sending them to him in trust that he would keep them private.

Now what bothers me is that he has been leaking the pictures to people in our neighbouhood just because I have made up my mind that I no longer want him. He even sent me messages threatening to make the pictures go viral and he is doing all this to fix me so that I don’t get another man in my life,” she said.

Speaking on the challenges they faced in their relationship Talent said;

“When I first started going out with him in 2014, he had lied to me that he was single. We broke up after I found out the truth. He kept coming back and I agreed to be his girlfriend even though he had a wife. Our relationship was not smooth because he is very violent, we broke up several times after he had assaulted me but still he would come back to me asking for forgiveness.”

However, Talent’s boyfriend Anesu has reacted and insisted Talent is using juju on him.

“My life is in the hands of this woman, she used juju on me and I cannot resist her. I no longer want her in my life but I would be lying if I say I no longer love her. The reason I have decided to publicize this issue is because I want to expose the juju she uses on me. I am confident that the way I feel towards her in influenced by juju because it has been confirmed by different prophets whom I have gone to consult,” he said.

Anesu went on to reveal that even though they were currently on separation they were always meeting regularly for s*x.

“I am so surprised by my actions because I always find myself going back to her. I am sure she can even confirm what I am saying. I have caught her cheating many times but in all those incidences, I am the one who ends up asking her forgiveness. We still had s*x even though we were no longer together. I will be going back to South Africa soon so yesterday we were actually planning on spending quality time before I leave,” he said.

Anesu continued:

“My marriage life was seriously affected ever since I started having an affair with Talent. On Tuesday I was arrested after I assaulted my wife for insulting Talent over the phone. I am not the one who leaked the n*de pictures that Talent is accusing me of leaking, they were leaked by my wife after she found them in my phone.”

Also, Anesu’s wife during an interview confirmed her husband’s claims that Talent uses love potions.

“There is no joy in my marriage because of this woman, my husband cannot leave her and we face a lot of challenges because of that. Last night we ended up fighting because of her and it really pains me a lot,” she said.

Thank You For The Amazing Sex - Open Letter To The Side Guys

Dear Side Guy,

Thank you for preserving so many marriages. Thank you for keeping us company and providing us with emotional attention our husbands deny us.

You see, giving birth to children takes it toll on our bodies. Our husbands stop finding us attractive afterwards. They complain of our fat bodies and slackened pussy. They say our tummy rolls prevent sex and our vagina is too ugly to be eaten. We are forced to channel our energy on our little ones and hope to get the emotional warmth our husbands have denied us from them. We go so long without sex that we forget what being held by a man feels like.

So thank you for not minding our rolls or vagina. Thank you for making us feel loved and eating us out without hesitation. Thank you for not expecting us to twerk for you or dress seductively. Thank you for understanding that there comes a time in life where things like twerking or applying too much makeup feels like a chore. Our husbands fail to realize that we are no longer youths. They expect too much from us without giving anything in return.

Society tells us that we are supposed to do anything we can to keep our husbands interested. They tell us to learn how to twerk, apply make up and do crazy sex fetishes to keep him excited. No one talks about what our men should do to keep us interested so thank you for taking that into consideration side guy.

See, without you in our lives, we would have been sad and depressed. Our marriages would have ended a long time ago. You are the only reason why our husbands come home to meet us happy and always in the mood to welcome them.

You've been saving lives since 1990 but havent gotten the recognition for it. Our husbands should thank you everyday.

Opinion: To Be A Good Nigerian Wife, You Must Die

I've had the opportunity to study comments from Nigerian women and men and I have come to understand their definition of a good wife.
1- A good wife must pound yam in the mortar. She must not use a food processor even if it will make her life easy.

2- A good wife must not let anyone know if her husband beats her. She is not the only one who has been beaten by her husband so she has to keep quiet and take it all with a smile.

3- A good wife must be ready to please her husband sexually at all times even if she is not in the mood.

4- A good woman must watch war room and fold her arms if she discovers her husband cheats. Cheating is the nature of men so she shouldn't cause a fuss if her husband does it. He is just being a man.

5- If her husband denies her affection, a good wife must never complain. She should get on her knees and pray. The matter is between her and her God.

6- If her husband denies her sexual attention, she must control her urge and channel her energy towards her children. A good wife should be able to kill all her sexual desires against her will.

7- If she is in an unhappy and manipulative marriage, a good woman must take the matter to master Jesus. She cannot afford to break her home up over any issues other than death

8- A good wife should beg, cry and pray to GOD if her husband is a drunk.

9- A good wife must have a male child for her husband. If she is unable to have one, she must go to different spiritual houses, drink herbs, cry, pray and fast till one comes.

10- A good wife must not earn more money than her husband. What is she trying to prove? A man is the head of the house so even if she gets a better paying job than him, she should refuse it.

11- A good wife should get ready to quit her job at some stage in her life. Who will watch the kids and look after the home?

12- If your husband body shames her by calling her fat after he knows she became fat by bearing his kids, a good woman must cry and drink all manner of slim teas to look appealing once again.

13- A good wife must never report her husband to the head the family even though his decisions are detrimental to her life.

14- If her husband gives her STD'S, she must nurse her pains silently. She will treat herself without telling anyone and resume her sexual duties to him.

15- A good wife must never complain if her husband fails to provide for the family financially but enjoys using his money to buy stuffs for himself and womanize. She must endure and pray.

16- Please don't forget the previous thing you must do. If he beats you to stupor don't tell anyone just stay in the marriage till you die. Your reward will be in heaven and God will punish him later.

17- I know I have said it before but just so you don't forget, if he cheats, stay put. He will carry different girls and spend his money on them. He will fly some to Dubai and buy houses for others. When you find out, don't do anything. Watch war room because the matter is a spiritual one. Since when did cheating become an excuse to leave a marriage?

If your aim is to be a good "Nigerian" wife, get ready to live the rest of your life unhappy and depressed. If you die on this quest, they will bury you, your husband will marry again and your kids will be used as slaves by the new woman.

Man Calls Out His Ex Over Alleged Infidelity

Man calls out his ex over alleged infidelity

A man based in Ghana known as Joshua Ilayah on Facebook posted this alleging his ex for infidelity

You Cheated And Lost The Love Of Your Life, Nigerian Man Responds To His Ex

You cheated and lost the love of your life, Nigerian man responds to a female Twitter user

Do Not Woo A Nigerian Lady In Any Of These 6 Places

Some Nigerian guys tend to toast (woo) any girl they are interested in without even considering the time and place.

Not minding the location and with so much confidence, they approach you and begin to run their mouths, spitting lines they have specially practiced for wooing girls. Oftentimes, the thinking of certain guys is that they want to take the opportunity to toast the girl as they may not meet her again. That’s true. However, you should be conscious of the places you intend to hit on a woman.

Here are the 6 places you should never toast a Nigerian girl. 

Hospital 

Even if she is Miss Nigeria, you should not toast a girl at the hospital. You don’t know her purpose at the hospital. You appear from nowhere to woo her. You are just disturbing her and wasting your time as she will not answer you. At work You hear what it is called work. She is very busy at work and you still want to collect her number or you want to ask her out? She will just ignore you and at the end of the whole episode, you will be embarrassed. Well, some girls will have pity on you and walk you out.

Church/Mosque

The Church is a place to listen to the word of God and receive anointing. The same for the mosque. These places are not hubs for chasing women. But it is today. That doesn’t it make right.

In danfo buses/BRT Stations

Imagine in serious traffic (even when there is no traffic) inside one of those Lagos’s rickety danfos and these guy sitting beside is trying to get your attention. The girl will even be angry that under such harrowing and uncomfortable situation you are toasting her.  What she just want is to get home. You are a distraction. For BRT stations, you see a girl standing in a long queue, you want to woo her. That is a wrong time.

Cinema 

We all go to the cinema for different reasons. Some go there to search for potential lovers. But the cinema is a place where you to enjoy the movie you paid for and leave. So, enjoy your movie and when it is over you can go talk to whomever you are interested in. Don’t do this immediately after the movie, though.

Her father’s house 

When a Nigerian father sees their daughter with, they think about all sorts of things like she has joined bad gang. Most of which are negative. Hence, quite a number of girls don’t like guys wooing them in front of their father’s house especially if they are meeting you for the first time.

Help! My Girlfriend Changes DP & Uploads Selfies At Least Twice A Day

Have been dating my gf for six months now and for real i love her...
She is a banker and we met at the bank too... And sincerely she is pretty..

The issue at hand is she is always changing her dp on whatsapp and she keeps uploading selfies on fb and i am beginning to think she is seeking attention or trying to impress someone cos she is quite aware i dont like it.. ..

I have discussed it over with her more than four times yet she keeps doing this and has vowed never to stop ... As i write this piece 9:17AM she has changed her whatsapp dp twice ( one pic this morning at the office and the other one she had Before leaving the house).. We dont stay in same state though

Pls i need mature conttibutions on what and how exactly to tackle this and what could probably be the reason behind this
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5 REASONS WHY SOME WOMEN FAKE ORGASM

This is a very sensitive topic and a typical African woman when approached with the matter comes with a lot of shyness and embarrassment, that’s just the honest truth. When a woman is making love with her husband, lover, boyfriend, friends with benefits and she gets direct clitoral stimulation and is able to reach her pleasure spot which brings an overwhelming sensation that makes a woman feels she is in another planet hmmm! And she moves her body to the rhythm as the pleasure gets more intense and her sounds gets louder followed by an apparent release then  That woman is definenatly not faking this particular orgasm. But my article is talking about the women who fake orgasm and the reasons why they fake it.

Read: Guy Proposed To Girl In A Mall And She Walked Out

HERE ARE THE REASONS WHY SOME WOMEN FAKE ORGASM.

TOO YOUNG AND INEPERIENCED
This is one of the natural factors - when a girl, woman, young and inexperienced. Been inexperienced doesn’t necessarily mean these set of ladies is young just not exposed enough to know much about sex and lovemaking and the pleasure that goes with it, as per the young being disvirgined then having to meet a partner who would actually teach the woman about lovemaking and that she needs to learn more about her body and not been ashamed to have the feelings of an orgasm. Due to inexperience and being young and being with a partner who is very selfish this set of women will definitely fake an orgasm just even out of curiosity. It takes a caring and sensitive man to make them realize their body can give them intense pleasure with the right partner.

NOT IN THE MOOD FOR SEX:
Some set of women are not in the mood to have sex, it depends on the situation its either they are not happy with the man and don’t know how to tell him and don’t want to lose him so they endure. So most time when their man comes to have sex with them they do it with them and fake orgasm to make the men feel like a Don and the king.

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TO HURRY UP AND GET DONE WITH IT:
Well some ladies when they are with their steady partners that they are sexually active with, they have gotten so used to their partner so they just want to have sex most times and get it done with very monogamous. In the process of their sexual intercourse their partner isn’t hitting their g-spot that would lead them to having a mind blowing orgasm so they fake it so they can move on to other things and probably work load to cook, or even go clubbing they just want the sex over and done with.

SEX NOT SATISFYING:
Some ladies who have been victims of sexual abuse as a young girl and probably from a dysfunctional family. Their mindset towards sex is already messed up, misguided views from their mum that sex is only for procreation and even some ladies make it hard for the men to discover their g-spot because of their frigidness and moral values, they even feel dirty when they find themselves moaning to sex at all, they feel it’s bad, they are getting wayward so this makes them not enjoy sex at all. These set of women who are equally married to rigid men might not fully enjoy the beautiful euphoria of intense lovemaking with their partners and give them orgasm because even the men might think their faking their orgasm is bad and that their wives will cheat on them so they are even mindful faking orgasm. And those who have worldly husband who has plenty mistresses fake so as not be look like a wood in bed whereas the man is the one not  getting her g-spot cause he has other girlfriends.

Read Also: 20 Signs That You're Addicted To Your Smartphone

TO PLEASE THEIR PARTNERS NOT TO HURT THEIR FEELINGS:
This is a major reason and most of these women would really want to be able to give their husband mind blowing sex, and keep him satisfied. And when in the process of having sex and their partner is not able to get across to their direct g-spot through the sexual positions they are used to, instead of telling the guy which would destroy his self esteem. She would fake the orgasm like mehnn she is really on fire with mind blowing orgasm sensations whereas she isn’t feeling anything especially when her man pays the bills. Instead of telling their man what pleasures them how they want it they feel their man might think they are having an affair. Been open with your partner is the key to discovering pleasure spots in your body you never imagine possible.

After all well said and done faking orgasm isn’t good for us women because we are denying ourselves the ultimate pleasure of lovemaking. God created it with a committed and loving partner. Sex is for matured minds and you would take your time to explore each other’s body to have a very satisfying sex life. Let your man discover your g-spot for you, don’t be shy and we are not in 1968 even then women became aware of their sexuality they were not completely primitive due to some ancient movies I have watched, women who inhibit themselves and hold on to grudges  can’t fully  enjoy sex. You have to let go, having a mind blowing orgasm is part of having a great sex life with your partner it’s very important for a relationship, so faking an orgasm one day the culprit will get tired and the truth will be out, not always a nice sight. Ladies faking orgasm sort out your mindset issue and look for caring and loving partners.

"How Was Your First Time Having Sex Like?" - See People's Response

This is a Topic I wanted to write about, ask people how their 1st experience was like, and how it has shaped their perspective concerning Love, Sex and Romance and how they have been able to deal with the relationship drama that surrounds
 
us in this complex world we live in, Be it single, married, Divorced, single parent, teenagers, We all have a story to tell, SEX is a covenant however what
the world has now termed it to be and it binds spirits together and this has made people the way they are, act in a certain way, treat the opposite sex in a certain way and this boils down to their very FIRST time, you know getting down. Lol.

PEOPLES EXPERIENCES 

1. AUSTIN OKOYE (BANKER): WOW, This brings back memories that are very deep and that’s why I am a man today, she was my senior sisters friend, when I was in my early 20s, then she used to come to our house, she too was a banker then with my sister, they used to gist about the men they dated and MEHNN... she was HOT I must say and then I just gained Admission to The university of Benin and everyone on campus was acting and talking all big and I wanted to be part of the bragging and talking, the opportunity came one day, I noticed she stared at me too in a certain way and I was already so tall then, I came home for the holiday and she was driving towards my sisters place, but my sister wasn’t around, so she asked me if I wanted to hang around with her in her house.

MEHNN... sure, I fantasized about this woman, so when we got to her house,not much talking she made her apartment cozy with soft blues and then put on a blue film and after lunch in an instant we were at each other,she lead me and in a couples of minutes it was riding and sailing all the way. we continued for 2 years after she later ended marrying one new York based rich Delta man, I started dating older women, in fact when I meet my wife,it was because of her maturity that made me marry her, so I felt that first experience made me have the hots for older women, even been married once in a while I wonder, I feel the women we have sex with the first Time kind of shape our perspective towards sex, until we meet another person who swept us off our feet and make us whole again.

2. SIMI LAWSON (MAKE UP ARTIST): Hmmn… mine wasn’t a good one and I just blanked the memory off my subconsciousness, it was in my final year in secondary school and we were all preparing for our valedictory party, There was this guy that every girl in my secondary wanted, Sola he wanted me and I kind of liked him too, he made my heart beat skip, but I was one of those guys who believed in No Sex Before Marriage so I had told him it’s a no-no, so the valedictory parry came we were all dressed to kill partied had the time of our lives we wouldn’t be seeing each other again, so since he was with me he had to drop me before 7pm.

But I realized he was driving to another area which was not my house place so I questioned him and he told me to relax that he would take care of me, my heart started beating fast, I didn’t have any vex money like some chicks took, I decided to play cool so he wouldn’t be rough with me, he tried to make it memorable, but my mind wasn’t there after the penetration the pain came the pleasure, we became bed mates, that ruined my mindset about men, I felt I had to use my body to get whatever I wanted, even after my master’s degree I still felt so, my hubby changed my mindset and made me values my body and say no when I don’t want to have sex, really first really affects us whether we like it or not see my story thanks.

3. PASTOR CYNTHIA OKORODUDU: My first time was my wedding night and it was memorable because we did it with GODS approval as a teenager I kept myself, it was a war very hard, people mocked me and said it would be painful if I wait too long, long or early the 1st time is always effort after that the pleasure, when me and my husband get there we would cross the bridge and we did and we have 2 healthy boys we are training to be holy in this perverse world Bless you.

4. TONY AKPAN (CONSTRUCTION WORKER): Haha, mine was very Awkward I had my first with a prostitute, what saved me was she used a condom, thank GOD I am not HIV positive, I became a womanizers, I broke a lot of ladies heart, I changed women like I changed TISSUE PAPER, IN FACT WHAT CHANGED ME WAS AN INNOCENT  WOMAN I treated bad that cursed me, my wife didn’t take in for 7 years till we went for serious prayers and was told I had hurt an innocent lady, it took me constant fasting, denial to let go of the spirit of promiscuity, my poor wife suffered for my mistakes as I am now, I fear women oh, am satisfied with my wife only, yes first time matters I believe that, see, that was me sleeping with that prostitute ruined my life, but I thank GOD I got a second chance after repentance and prayer.

5. JENIFER OJODE (CUSTOMER CARE EXECUTIVE): My first time was very sudden and very unexpected because the man was an expatriate who came to Nigeria to work in one of the oil and gas company and my uncle had an event in which I went, I have always admired white men on TV seeing one live, change my world and I guess I got carried away, and got pregnant at 18, what a life, anytime I see my daughter she reminds me of that first time. He left Nigeria before I realize I was pregnant, I was a one night stand for me and he was my prince charming I watch on television about Hollywood, till today he doesn’t know my daughter exists very unfortunate, I am now engaged after countless relationships in which am always very careful when I make love not to ever get pregnant outside wedlock’s it made me cautious of men and their motives and my husband to be understands my pain and is helping me get over that unforgettable experience.

6. TUNJI BABATUNDE (UNDERGRADUATE): I am still a virgin and I am not ashamed of it, with what am seeing in campus and town its best I just respect myself and keep to myself and sort my future first, I would have time for countless sex later with one partner when am emotionally stable and ready to deal with Adult relationships.

After all well said and done, our first time either made us whole or messed us up emotionally or physically unable to truly love again, and gave us a mindset concerning sex which is helping us with our partners or destroying us, SEX IS SPIRITUAL and at this particular century taken for granted, everybody does anytime they want on the open field, toilet, etc., we should realize the angry men and women who were abandons on the street of life were products of unwanted sex, so we see how such a covenant SEX is, whether we like it or not some people are in mental homes not normal again because they had sex with the WRONG person, so whatever decisions we take we should always realize lives are involved so we need to be cautious I rest my case.

Why Ladies Are Attracted To "Bad Guys"

Fantasies will forever be evergreen for both women and men. We all used to have those actors, actresses we used to fantasize about having mind blowing sex with lol.  I remember back then in secondary school when a question was asked, which actor would you want to be left alone with in a deserted Island? There was so much response, some said Denzel Washington, Brad Pitt, Richard Mofe Damijo, Tom Cruise, Antonio Banderas - that time these were the sexiest men in the world.


This goes for we chicks, when I hear a man say “that girl is so frigid” I say there is no frigid girl. A frigid girl can be seduced by the most skillful man, she can turn from being a good girl to being a wanton woman overnight. Nigerian women have come of age and we are starting to enjoy sex, not only doing it for child bearing sake. It’s not only men who feel they are tired of having just one woman in their bed year in year out; it also goes same for women. Some are tired of the same banana, so times have really changed. Gone are the days when a man just want to penetrate a woman just to get his release and not be concerned about the needs of his women. If she meets a man who treats her like queen she is gone.

Tobi is a very pretty chick, in her late 20s most guys in her area really are all talking who is going to take the prize of her virginity, because guys have tried using all tactics - the normal wanting to take her to the cinema or an eatery and then back to their house to bang. This really keeps making Tobi get irritated and she backs off. How can a man want to have sex with a lady who wants to be made passionate love to? What an irony? Tobi meet Mofe at an art exhibition and Mofe just came from Canada to Nigeria for a visit, Mofe is in his early 30s and the first time he set his eyes on Tobi he instantly fall in love with her, as far as knowing she was the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with, he was so attracted to her, actually he lived not far from Tobi’s co-worker’s place that’s his family house. So when Tobi comes visiting he sees her, Mofe knows how to treat a woman right he has lived in Canada since high school, so firstly he found out more about Tobi before he made his move. Tobi has always wanted her first to be a man who did things differently, the first time Tobi saw him, her heart almost stopped the way he stared at her, she has never been stared at like that. He asked her Questions no man has ever asked her, took her to the beach, read Poems to her and the day he finally invited her to his house, Tobi didn’t hesitate, he was given an apartment for his time in Naija, he already had candle light dinner, soft blues she didn’t even know when she gave herself wholeheartedly forgetting it was her first time, in fact she became addicted to Mofe that the sexual positions and styles she did with Mofe she never imagined she would, she cried when Mofe went back to Canada in which she later joined him, they both escape sometimes to Panama or Spain, do crazy things together. Tobi became a sex freak thanks to her hubby Mofe. No woman can resist the trill of a mysterious man in bed, it’s just when you haven’t meet that man that sparks that fire it remains dormant.

A brother in church told me his late wife used to initiate sex, that they make out on the floor in the living room, kitchen, even on the table he used to look at her as if am sure this woman is promiscuous, he said now she is late, he is lonely he so missed that, he is looking forward to meeting a woman with such a passionate nature I just grinned.

When a woman inhibits herself its because she doesn’t trust the man she is with even if it’s her husband, she can’t give her 100 percent and at the end will be dissatisfied with sex and long for an imaginary lover to swept her off her feet, because the man in her life isn’t sensitive to notice.

Women want to be touched in a kind of way and be made love to in a kind of way to be completely whole when a man is able to do that that man is her king.
We fantasize because we believe there is this man out there that would make love to us like the men in Mills and Boom do it.
                                                 
Telemundo and Eva Channel or the way a man looks at us, like the way the Indian men look at their women in Zee world. We want the thrill of a mysterious man - be it husband, boyfriend, stranger, friends with benefits, we just want to be touched in a way and held in a way it makes us feel special.

Iyanya Reveals Why He Broke Up With Yvonne Nelson

Iyanya has revealed real reasons he broke up with Ghanaian Actress Yvonne Nelson. He made the revelation
in a new interview with The Nation. He said:

"We broke up because we hardly had time for each other.
So, it's like every time she flies from Ghana to Nigeria during that time I dropped Kukere, I was hustling and I would do four shows in a day and I will make 2million because I was a hustling boy and any call at any time I was going for it.
So, I won't say because I was in love with a woman, I’m going to see money and I'm going to lay back."

Checkout The 7 Things Mature Men Don’t Do

Let’s be truthful here, it’s not only women who can be loud and annoying, some men can lurid, loud, annoying as well as disrespectful.

Some men just won’t learn how to grow up, they have no idea what it means to have respect or what it means to be kind, loving, caring and confident, the only thing they care about is themselves. They are so arrogant, so full of themselves that they don’t even care who they hurt or might hurt along the way.

And because of this, they make it hard for one to spot the mature guys. Here are some things mature guys will never do.

Mature guys don’t let their fear rule their lives.

Mature guys don’t avoid making mistakes because they know mistakes are meant to make you strong and corrected.

They don’t hold grudges.

They don’t do things to please others.

Mature guys don’t idealise women.

They don’t run away from issues.

They don’t get intimidated

Guy Proposed To Girl In A Mall And She Walked Out

So this literally happened at a mall in florida in the united states. The guy proposed to his bae and the girl left away leaving the guy embarrassed at the mall.

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10 Ways To Spot Guys Who Have No Girlfriends

You might want to know the attitudes exhibited by guys who have no girlfriends. Just sit back, relax and read along with me the ways to spot guys who have no girlfriends.

1. They Look Unkempt

Those who live in school hostel or have room mates can relate to this. These guys can wear a pair of boxers for at least three weeks without worrying about the stench emanating from it. This is because they feel no lady will be seeing their joysticks or boxers soon, therefore, regular washing and replacement is not of utmost importance to them.

2. They Talk about Saving Money for their Future

Some of them them are very easy to spot by the way they talk in public places. They talk about how ladies will deplete their chances of becoming rich and wealthy. They talk about how they have long been saving their hard earned money into their bank accounts for a rewarding future. Even if you check their bank alert messages, they might be not even have more than N2, 000 in it.

3. They regularly Visit the Brothel

Frustratiom and lack of body control usually lead some of them to the brothel where they stand the chance to cool off their joysticks. Many will agree with me (Tosyne2much) that the larger percent of young guys who often visit the brothel are those who have no girlfriends.

4. They are quick to say "Nigerian girls don tire me"

Not all single guys are happy about their status even though they will never admit it. Some are frustrated people and can easily be spotted on social media. They are aggressive people who are quick to unleash their anger on any innocent lady on social media.

5. They Masturbate Often

As funny as it sounds, some of these guys buy vaseline and bathing soap almost every week and you will begin to question their level of neatness. Since the possibility of getting laid is very slim, they resort to using vaseline as an alternative to ease their konji.

6. They Discourage their Friends from having Girlfriends

Since some of them have had awful relationship experiences and have been jilted by ladies, they see relationship as a waste of time. They are spotted swearing that thunder should strike them if their N10 ever reaches out to any lady. They discourage guys from buying their girlfriends gifts and are experts in giving advice on how to treat a lady with pain and cruelty.

7. They Hire Girlfriends during their Birthdays

When they organize birthday parties, they will hire ladies that will stand as girlfriends in order not to be put to shame when invited people are coming with their girlfriends. When the MC asks them to kiss the hired girlfriends, they will be sweating profusely like someone who lost his lifetime savings on MMM.

8. They remain Indoor on Valentine's Day

Another way to spot them is that they're locked up in their rooms on valentine's day, and when you ask them if they are taking their girlfriends on rendezvous, they will give you reasons as to why no girl on earth is worth celebrating val with.

9. They have stark of Porn on their phones

Their phones are usually passworded and guarded even more than central bank. This is to prevent other people from having access to the numerous porn on their phones. They are ardent lovers of Spartacus, Sparktan, 300 and or reality TV show such as BBA and the likes

10. They always have the same status in their respective social networks. Eg, Being single rocks, girls are gold diggers, money is my priority in life, when I make money ladies will chase me, etc.

Must See For Men: 7 Types Of Women To Marry

I am going to give men a starting point for the types of women I feel are a good consideration to date (marry).

We, as men, know the goal is to have a woman we can love, cherish, hold, and make our wife. Of course what I am about to list is no guarantee of a good woman, but should be used as a foundational guide of what she can look like emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and personality-wise.

Here are 7 types of women every man should date:

1.Submitted to God

If a woman is submitted to and passionate about living for God, she will be the same to you, assuming you’re a man submitted to God. There is something special about a woman who truly serves God.

2. Selfless Woman

A selfless woman will understand the importance of working together, sharing, devotion, and commitment for the right reasons. Her motives will be to help make life little better for you. She will understand that dying to self doesn’t mean she does not love herself.

3. Simple and Low Maintenance Woman

A low maintenance woman tends to be focused on the truly important things in life. I’ve found them to be non-clingy, very rational, and supportive.

She won’t care about how much money you have or don’t have. She will like you for who you are and is not looking for what you can do for her. She accepts you freely because she is comfortable in who she is. She is more about becoming a better woman than just appearing to be a good woman

4. Someone Who Can Truly Be Your Best Friend

Friendship before love is always best before a serious relationship.

5. Emotionally Stable

This type of woman understands God gave her emotions and instincts to give man balance. She understands emotions are never used as a decision making tool, because emotions can lead you outside of the will of God. The devil drives us off a cliff using emotions and God gently leads us with wisdom.

6. A Loyal and Patient Woman

She is with you through the good and the bad. She’s there if you’re rich; she’s there if you’re poor (if you have 10k, 200k, or 2 million dollars… makes no difference). She is right there cheering you on and helping you to be great. She will not be looking for other men, because all of her attention is with you. She will uplift, support and encourage you.

7. One With Character

This should go without saying, but I will add this (and this type should really be the first thing you consider for any woman). She must be of a woman of good character. Without character, it will be difficult to even build a strong friendship.

Character is what we do when other people are not looking, but God always knows what we are doing (e.g. A woman who will still entertain men, giving out her number to other men, etc… is not serious about a courtship leading to marriage and it speaks to her character).

How she will honor and respect the relationship as you grow together when you are not around speaks volumes about her character.

Diseases That Mess Up Your Sex Life

Diseases are unsparing in the ways they ravage the human body. The bad thing about diseases is that they don’t just affect one organ of the body! Rather, the majority of debilitating diseases that afflict human also affect the sex life!

What are these diseases that mess up your sex life, in addition to making you miserable? These ones…

Cardiovascular diseases

These include heart failure, build-up of plaque in the arteries (atherosclerosis), cardiac arrest, etc. Urology Specialist, Dr. Enis Rauf, explains that for the male and female sex organs to function optimally, blood must reach them unhindered.

“The blood that comes and goes to the joystick, and then trapped in there to achieve an erection, only works properly in men with a normally functioning cardiovascular system. When this system does not work properly, problems also occur in erections,” Rauf warns.

He adds that when people in a certain group complain of erection problems, if doctors can handle the problem sensibly, they can catch a cardiovascular disease in its early stage.

“Since the diameter of the main artery going to the joystick is smaller than the heart arteries, any obstructions in these areas become evident very early on,” Rauf warns.

Diabetes

Diabetes happens to be one of the most devastating diseases that anyone can have.

According to diabetologist/Medical Director of Rainbow Specialist Hospital, Isiavwe Afokoghene, if not put under control through appropriate medications and sound lifestyle habit, diabetes complications can wreak untold havoc on all organs of the body such as the eyes, nerves, kidneys, and the heart; and it may eventually kill.

For men living with diabetes, low libido or low sex desire is a constant companion. This is mainly because of their high blood glucose levels.

Worse still, scientists warn, even when a diabetic man is able to have sex, he may be unable to reach orgasm!

“High sugar levels in men with diabetes can affect the function of the nerves in the joystick, leading to erectile function,” physicians warn.

Indeed, a study published in the peer-reviewed journal, Diabetes Care, reveals that, for people who already have diabetes, sexual problems can indicate nerve damage, blocked arteries, and hormones that are functioning in haphazard manner.

The scientists say one of the main sexual problems men with diabetes face is the inability to have an erection, as damage to the vascular system can impair blood flow.
“If the blood vessels aren’t functioning properly or if an artery is blocked, not enough blood will travel to the joystick, making it difficult to get an erection,” they warn.

Psychological, psychiatric and neurological diseases

Problems such as psychosis, intense stress and depression don’t only cause erectile dysfunction, they also cause lack of libido and ejaculation disorders.

Rauf says that performance anxiety is also an important psychogenic problem (having a psychological origin or cause rather than a physical one) that causes excessive nervousness and erection problems in men.

Neurological diseases such as Parkinson’s, Multiple Sclerosis and epilepsy can affect many functions of the body, including erection, with the damage they cause in the brain and peripheral nerves.

Also, the head and spine trauma that is suffered particularly in traffic accidents cause many problems including sexual dysfunction.

My Fiancée Wants To Break Up With Me Because She Doesn't Want Sex Anymore

Please guys I need your advice and suggestions please.
There is this girl I have been dating for over a year now, I love her so much and intend to marry her soon. I think she loves me too.

She's currently doing her Nysc in cross river while I am in the north. We haven't seen each other since last November though we always chatting and talking on phone like everyday. We have been so cool over the past few weeks and we arranged for her to come see me this week, Thursday to be precise. I even sent her 10k for transportation.

Now after we talked last night and she agreed to come on Thursday, she called me early this morning around 6am only to tell me there was a problem, when I asked her what it was, she told me despite the fact she loves me so much and wants to be with me, she's breaking up with me because she doesn't want to be having sex anymore, that she's not okay with her spiritual life.

I was devastated and all my efforts to try talk sense into her has been in futility! Now the problem am having is that this girl happens to be the only woman in my life, for over a year we, ve been together I have not cheated on her despite the distance. I love her so much and I have always wanted to end up with her. I always did everything possible to make her happy and I, ve never hurt her before.

Please guys I don't want to lose her, what do I do.

10 Reasons Why Introverts Are So Good At Sex

1. Even though introverts are shy and quiet, they often have a very high sex drive.

2. There’s nearly nothing an introvert prizes more than connecting with someone stimulating and being in a situation that’s all about stimulation.

3. Introverts are intuitive and great readers of cues, and that means while they’re licking your crevices and touching and caressing you, they’re also paying close attention to what pleases you. Once they have figured it out, they will be taking you to ecstasy over and over.

4. Introverts are comfortable to be around because they make you feel relaxed. Relaxed sex is the best sex.

5. Introverts find it difficult to connect to people, so when they do find that connection, it’s on.

6. Introverts aren’t afraid to do the things they like. They love sex so it will never be a quickie. Sex with an introvert will be intense and well paced. Orgasm is not necessarily the most important part of
good sex.

7. They know that intimacy is the key.

8. In order to have sex with you, introverts would have to care for you. It’s not necessary love.
9. Sexual chemistry is everything, and introverts know that an emotional tension is really the turn on. Introverts like it rough too, but at the end of the day it’s all about the connection.

10. It would seem quiet ones always have the most fun.