This is a Topic I wanted to write about, ask people how their 1st experience was like, and how it has shaped their perspective concerning Love, Sex and Romance and how they have been able to deal with the relationship drama that surrounds
us in this complex world we live in, Be it single, married, Divorced, single parent, teenagers, We all have a story to tell, SEX is a covenant however what
the world has now termed it to be and it binds spirits together and this has made people the way they are, act in a certain way, treat the opposite sex in a certain way and this boils down to their very FIRST time, you know getting down. Lol.
PEOPLES EXPERIENCES
1. AUSTIN OKOYE (BANKER): WOW, This brings back memories that are very deep and that’s why I am a man today, she was my senior sisters friend, when I was in my early 20s, then she used to come to our house, she too was a banker then with my sister, they used to gist about the men they dated and MEHNN... she was HOT I must say and then I just gained Admission to The university of Benin and everyone on campus was acting and talking all big and I wanted to be part of the bragging and talking, the opportunity came one day, I noticed she stared at me too in a certain way and I was already so tall then, I came home for the holiday and she was driving towards my sisters place, but my sister wasn’t around, so she asked me if I wanted to hang around with her in her house.
MEHNN... sure, I fantasized about this woman, so when we got to her house,not much talking she made her apartment cozy with soft blues and then put on a blue film and after lunch in an instant we were at each other,she lead me and in a couples of minutes it was riding and sailing all the way. we continued for 2 years after she later ended marrying one new York based rich Delta man, I started dating older women, in fact when I meet my wife,it was because of her maturity that made me marry her, so I felt that first experience made me have the hots for older women, even been married once in a while I wonder, I feel the women we have sex with the first Time kind of shape our perspective towards sex, until we meet another person who swept us off our feet and make us whole again.
2. SIMI LAWSON (MAKE UP ARTIST): Hmmn… mine wasn’t a good one and I just blanked the memory off my subconsciousness, it was in my final year in secondary school and we were all preparing for our valedictory party, There was this guy that every girl in my secondary wanted, Sola he wanted me and I kind of liked him too, he made my heart beat skip, but I was one of those guys who believed in No Sex Before Marriage so I had told him it’s a no-no, so the valedictory parry came we were all dressed to kill partied had the time of our lives we wouldn’t be seeing each other again, so since he was with me he had to drop me before 7pm.
But I realized he was driving to another area which was not my house place so I questioned him and he told me to relax that he would take care of me, my heart started beating fast, I didn’t have any vex money like some chicks took, I decided to play cool so he wouldn’t be rough with me, he tried to make it memorable, but my mind wasn’t there after the penetration the pain came the pleasure, we became bed mates, that ruined my mindset about men, I felt I had to use my body to get whatever I wanted, even after my master’s degree I still felt so, my hubby changed my mindset and made me values my body and say no when I don’t want to have sex, really first really affects us whether we like it or not see my story thanks.
3. PASTOR CYNTHIA OKORODUDU: My first time was my wedding night and it was memorable because we did it with GODS approval as a teenager I kept myself, it was a war very hard, people mocked me and said it would be painful if I wait too long, long or early the 1st time is always effort after that the pleasure, when me and my husband get there we would cross the bridge and we did and we have 2 healthy boys we are training to be holy in this perverse world Bless you.
4. TONY AKPAN (CONSTRUCTION WORKER): Haha, mine was very Awkward I had my first with a prostitute, what saved me was she used a condom, thank GOD I am not HIV positive, I became a womanizers, I broke a lot of ladies heart, I changed women like I changed TISSUE PAPER, IN FACT WHAT CHANGED ME WAS AN INNOCENT WOMAN I treated bad that cursed me, my wife didn’t take in for 7 years till we went for serious prayers and was told I had hurt an innocent lady, it took me constant fasting, denial to let go of the spirit of promiscuity, my poor wife suffered for my mistakes as I am now, I fear women oh, am satisfied with my wife only, yes first time matters I believe that, see, that was me sleeping with that prostitute ruined my life, but I thank GOD I got a second chance after repentance and prayer.
5. JENIFER OJODE (CUSTOMER CARE EXECUTIVE): My first time was very sudden and very unexpected because the man was an expatriate who came to Nigeria to work in one of the oil and gas company and my uncle had an event in which I went, I have always admired white men on TV seeing one live, change my world and I guess I got carried away, and got pregnant at 18, what a life, anytime I see my daughter she reminds me of that first time. He left Nigeria before I realize I was pregnant, I was a one night stand for me and he was my prince charming I watch on television about Hollywood, till today he doesn’t know my daughter exists very unfortunate, I am now engaged after countless relationships in which am always very careful when I make love not to ever get pregnant outside wedlock’s it made me cautious of men and their motives and my husband to be understands my pain and is helping me get over that unforgettable experience.
6. TUNJI BABATUNDE (UNDERGRADUATE): I am still a virgin and I am not ashamed of it, with what am seeing in campus and town its best I just respect myself and keep to myself and sort my future first, I would have time for countless sex later with one partner when am emotionally stable and ready to deal with Adult relationships.
After all well said and done, our first time either made us whole or messed us up emotionally or physically unable to truly love again, and gave us a mindset concerning sex which is helping us with our partners or destroying us, SEX IS SPIRITUAL and at this particular century taken for granted, everybody does anytime they want on the open field, toilet, etc., we should realize the angry men and women who were abandons on the street of life were products of unwanted sex, so we see how such a covenant SEX is, whether we like it or not some people are in mental homes not normal again because they had sex with the WRONG person, so whatever decisions we take we should always realize lives are involved so we need to be cautious I rest my case.Labels: latest, relationship
